Hmmm

I've just finished reading my friend Kim's blog and that got me to thinking about how this year has been for me.

I would say I've accomplished some of my goals and come close to accomplishing others. Then there are some goals that I didn't even come close to tackling.

I've lost quite a bit of the weight that I wanted to lose. I would still like to lose 5 or more lbs to be completely happy but I'm pretty satisfied with my results so far.

I've also made a few new friends that live near me. I'm extremely happy about that since some of the friends I've made here are not that reliable.

I bought my very first house down here. I'm still scared about that decision what with the state of the economy and everything. But I do love my new home. In fact yesterday I was able to open all the patio doors and it felt like I was outside the entire afternoon. :o)

I've still yet to make any head way in the relationship world. I've dated a few people this year, but none of them has ever panned out to be anything more than just a passing good time. I will say I've learned to take more risks this year in the dating world, but it I'm still currently single. :o( I know I put a sad face there but I do realize that still being single isn't all bad news.

I'm really looking forward to the next 2 months b/c I love the holidays!! I cannot wait to decorate my house for Christmas and having my first Thanksgiving. This is probably one of my favorite times of the year.

Men??

Men confuse the hell out of me! They walk around saying that it's the women who can't make up their minds, well I've got a newsflash for ya; if you did a poll I believe you would find an overwhelming response from the female population on how confusing men are.

First you find men that are in it for the hunt. They put soooo much effort into getting your attention/affection that you finally cave and become attached to them. Well this will just not due! As soon as this lovely event takes place, they bolt. Then on the other hand you have the "nice guy" who also puts a lot of effort into gaining your affections. The unfortunate thing here is you cannot tell them apart. The game players and nice guys all come in the same packages!!! I mean come on, shouldn't they have signs or something. Once a woman experiences a man that was just in it for the "hunt." she will forever have her guard up in an attempt to protect her heart from getting crushed again. This is what will cause us to miss the "nice guys" that are out there b/c they look so much like the "hunters." The reverse can also be said about women I know but I'm not talking about women right now. :o)

The other kind of man that just irritates the hell out of me is the "damaged goods" man. This man could be a hunter, nice guy, etc. there are no set rules here. The problem is when you get one of the nice ones who has his head on straight, knows how to treat women, and can figure out what/who he wants. This man will go after the women he wants and will want to keep her once he wins her over. None of this is the issue. The issue reveals itself much later after you are entirely invested. This type of individual is the type that will ultimately end up sabotaging the relationship inadvertently. Either by neglect and their assumption that no matter how far they pull away you will always be there when they decide to come back or by sheer selfishness. They can only see their pain/problems and do not have time to focus on others. It's is not really because they are a bad person....just damaged.

There are very few honestly good men out there anymore. I know they still exist b/c I have a few friends who have managed to stumble upon these mythical creatures. I envy these women and the treasures they have found. I hope/pray that one day I may know what it is like to find one of these men. I also hope/pray that my friends will be lucky enough to find their own unicorn.